On Monday, July 28, 2014 I went for a standard 20 week ultrasound. After being left alone in a dark room, for what seemed like forever, I received news that I didn’t know how to process. I asked the technician to call in my husband and our oldest and youngest sons (our middle son was at home on our couch, with his leg resting, as he had accidentally broken his leg the Saturday prior). The technician quietly told us that our Baby appeared to only have minimal amniotic fluid, which indicated either undeveloped kidneys or seriously malfunctioning kidneys. The next four days were a blur and on Friday, August 1, 2014 we met with a specialist at a nearby highly renowned hospital. After another ultrasound, he delivered the news that our Baby was “incompatible with life”.
My husband and I had spent that week talking about how to proceed. Our decision was that I would carry our Baby as long as possible and give her every possible dignity. My medical team was extremely supportive of our decision and our baby girl, Abigail, was born on Tuesday, November 18, 2014 at 11:47 am. She died, while snuggled in our arms, at 1:30 pm, with her three brothers, and her Grammie and Grampie all in the room with us, surrounding her with so much love.
I posted from the very beginning on Facebook as I knew that this would be a journey that I needed my family and friends to walk with me. And I also strongly felt that Abigail’s story needed to be shared. That I needed to share the lessons that I was, and am, learning. This page contains my Facebook posts, in order, from July 28, 2014 to January 2015.
This is sweet Abigail’s story. This our story.